Life is a process, an evolution of change accommodating what we’ve learned. Throughout my own life, I have noticed various patterns in most things that I do and believe in. During my youth, I felt dejà-vû experiences and coincidences that kept reoccurring. I wondered what those patterns were supposed to mean. Were they some divine deep coded messages that would take me years to interpret? Whatever all this was, it became a most intriguing mystery to me. 

Social Conditioning
I eventually realized that my life was built on various patterns that my parents and society taught me through political systems, religion and by social standards. I call this ‘brainwashing’.  When we fail to meet these various standards and conditions or when we simply stop believing in many of the things we were taught, we are, in varying degrees judged or even punished by all those who still cling to these social ideals and ‘morals’. This is a form of abuse, which is created through the defense of ‘social conditioning’. For example, even our closest loving friends and family can turn on us when we begin to abandon those fabricated belief systems that have been forced upon us.

Suppression of Individual Power
Though we have it pretty good here in Canada, especially as women, we are still being forced to suppress our power and individuality. We are subtly influenced in a manipulative manner and if we fail to accept ‘our place’ we are punished and abandoned. For most of us who weren’t saturated with love as a child, it could be traumatic to face the fear of being alone. Our fathers, male bosses, male political systems and even our husbands do not always back us up. What’s worse is that there are many heavily brainwashed women who preach patriarchal beliefs, and do not encourage their own sex. 

Personal Abuse
The hardest abuse to take is abuse that is personal. When we rely on our parents, baby-sitters, relatives, next-door neighbors, our dates, our doctors and that trust is broken by some form of abuse—our lives change forever. Some of us have been emotionally abused. This is when your parents would shout at you and you weren’t allowed to yell back. You had to hold in all that hurt and anger—or else! Others have been mentally abused. This is when a parent manipulates the child with convoluted logic as a means to program that person’s mind, to control them. If ever you’d confront them on this mental abuse, they would always twist everything around to make it look like your fault and that you must be nuts. Physical abuse often happened when a parent or caregiver would drink alcohol or not be able to control their anger. Sexual abuse is a violation of your body, against your will. The worst thing you can do if you’ve been abused is to ignore it, pretend it didn’t happen, minimize it, or deny it. This is what causes most people to rot and self-destruct.

Healing Stages
Abuse can be healed through a series of stages. First, remember the abuse. Ask yourself, “Who did it? How often did it happen?” Then take time to do self-observation. Start a diary and write random thoughts and patterns you notice, and especially how they make you feel. Eventually reading various books on these particular abuse topics will help you to get some understanding. Doing therapy exercises in your own home is private and beneficial. When you feel safe enough, join therapy groups. It’s comforting to get support from like-minded people. Seeing a counselor can be useful.

Covert Social Abuse 
Social abuse is covert. We never think to ask, “Why are the rules this particular way? “Why do I have to be suppressed in order to be accepted?” Ultimately, you must stop giving your power away to anyone and to all belief systems (even therapy will become a belief system). Having sets of rules prevents you from living in the moment and being spontaneous. We end up living in our heads and using these beliefs as an excuse from being our powerful selves. We are not talking about anarchy. It’s simply that you have to begin thinking for yourself and making your own choices based on your intuitive wisdom. Don’t take anything for granted. Be a skeptic.

Conspiracies
There are some remarkable people who have been on the inside of our social system. They have taken part in politics and witnessed how power really works. It has nothing to do with justice or fairness. Spend some time and find out about the many conspiracies affecting your life today. We are brainwashed by our televisions, music, the media and our school systems. Our governments and religions control the masses through subtle and manipulative mind control. Maybe we can’t do anything about it, but we can become consciously aware and be unwilling participants. 

Awareness as a Tool
Awareness is the primary tool we have to deprogram ourselves.  There are many stages to healing. You may find that you’ll want to focus on nutrition, fitness, or creativity. What you put in your body affects your general well being. A creative project can bring out the best in you. Keep experimenting. Be fearless in trying new things from time to time. Trust your intuition, you have the tools inside; you merely have to tap into your own inner truth and wisdom. Stay in the moment and become aware.

Logical Distractions

The Challenge  
The journey to truly deprogram yourself from everything that holds you back is one of the most challenging you can take. The odds are truly stacked against you. Everyone around you is programmed to stay programmed. Additionally, there are matriarchal systems of beliefs, religions and power structures that are manipulative. Any organization or person that asks you to sublimate yourself is not supporting your best interests. 

Spiritual Power  
You can have your own spiritual foundation, without following a religion and worshipping God. There’s a way to talk assertively to the people in your life while being respected. There’s a method to being powerful and strong, without losing your job. As long as you continue to give your power away, your life cannot possibly feel whole and fulfilled.

Developing Yourself
Find your own truth by experimenting. No one is going to do it for you. Find yourself. Discover who you are and re-ignite your passion for life. Face the sabotaging mechanisms that destroy your progress. Probe into the source of your pain. You aren’t on this planet to please others or to make them happy, but to find out who you are and expand into your own greatness. Once you have a strong relationship with yourself, seek to make better partnerships with others. 

Finding Your Natural Pace
Be courageous and step out of your comfort zone regularly. Explore the unknown and you’ll awaken to the exciting adventure just around the corner! Everyone moves at a different pace. Be gentle and loving with yourself. There is no rush. You have your entire life to reclaim your magnificent self.  

Sahara Exodus - Success Coach
Family Counsellor, Psychic Reader
Innovative Author, Dynamic Speaker
Pioneer Empowerment Programs

Certified Counsellor / Certified Psychic
Chaotic Goddess Productions
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Vancouver, BC, Canada
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