• 1. Be selective in your dating choice. Avoid men who exhibit the personal characteristics of a potential rapist. These include men who espouse violence, who demean and control women, and who are obsessed with guns, drugs, and alcohol
• 2. On a date, be alert to behavior that often precedes a date rape, including attempts to take you to an isolated location, physical contact without your permission, and an overemphasis on sex talk and play. If this happens, try to get away from your date any way you can
• 3. Have a well-prepared defense plan before you go out, in case your date becomes dangerous. It is important to remain calm and clearheaded when confronted with this situation.
• 4. Try to talk your date out of the attack, using persuasion or deception-anything that may prove effective
• 5. Remember that the most favorable moment for escape is during the first few seconds of attack
• 6. If you decide to resist physically, use any and all tactics, fair and foul, to allow you an opportunity to escape
• 7. Never blame yourself for a sexual assault. Rape is the fault of the attacker, no one else
• 8. In the aftermath of a sexual attack, get to a safe place or area. Call someone you trust-a friend, relative, or teacher- and tell about the assault.
• 9. Contact your local rape crisis center
• 10. Preserve all evidence, and refrain from eating, drinking, washing, douching, brushing your teeth, and combing your hair
• 11. Seek medical help
• 12. Seek counseling by highly training therapists. Join a support group and share experiences
• 13. Remember, you alone must make the final decisions involving reporting the rape and pressing charges; however, by doing so you’re not only helping yourself, you’re also helping other potential victims
• 14. If you are attending college, beware of parties where heavy drinking or drug consumption is likely to occur
• 15. Be especially alert to “rape hazards” like isolated places, first dates, and weekend parties
• 16. Never remain at a party where you are the only female
• 17. Be assertive and say No if your date insists on unwanted sexual comments and touching. Terminate the date immediately if the man becomes physically or sexually aggressive.
• 18. Memorize the telephone number of campus security, write it down, and carry it at all times
• 19. Never walk home alone late at night when the campus is deserted
• 20. If you are a parent, teach your teenagers traditional values of mutual respect; point the dangers of peer pressure, drugs, and alcohol. You must serve as a role model
• 21. Discuss the dangers of dating and sexual assault with your teenage daughter to ensure that she has a high level of awareness before she goes away to college
• 22. Know your daughter’s rights should she become the victim of sexual assault, and make sure she knows them as well
• 23. Consult FBI statistics on campus crime before choosing a college
• 24. Choose a college that is serious about sexual assault prevention and protection
• 25. Be certain your college can provide an escort service or special transportation after dark
• 26. Check whether your college has automatic-dial emergency phones at convenient locations. If not, insist that they be installed.
• 27. Insist that college security personnel receive special training in rape prevention and how to deal with a victim.

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