10. Did you get "fixed"?

I had to visit three doctors before I finally found one who was willing to give me a vasectomy. The first told me that I was too young (34) to have one, and to come back in ten years. I told him that most people have had several kids by the time they were my age, and asked him why 34 was too young to choose not to have kids, but not too young to have several. He didn't get it! 

The second refused to perform a vasectomy on someone who wasn't married, and told me to get married and to return with my wife.

The third said, "But you don't have any children yet. Come back after you've had some kids." I replied, "By then it'll be too late!" 

The fourth interrogated me for more than fifteen minutes. I asked him if he would have had so many questions if, instead of wanting a vasectomy, I had announced that I planned to have ten kids. He paused a while, and then answered, "No, probably not." I retorted, "Who am I hurting by having none?" And then I asked, "Which will have a stronger impact on me, my wife, society and the planet? And which is more permanent?"

After much reflection, he finally said, "You're absolutely right. How's three weeks from next Wednesday?" (I had my vasectomy on Valentine's Day, no less!)

I am often asked whether I have any regrets about getting a vasectomy.  My only regret is that I didn't get it sooner.

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(8  APR 05)