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An August 2008 release from Pocket Books
Alone or lonely? An author’s ponderings….
Kathleen Lawless:
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Is there a difference, these days, between being alone, and being lonely?
I was chatting with some of my single friends on the topic of ‘being alone’, which I find to be a common theme through many of the books we write. Typically our hero and heroine start off alone, busy and independent. They don’t necessarily even feel lonely. It’s not until they connect with, and then lose their love, that they feel the depth of that loss and experience true loneliness.
I find it an interesting dichotomy of human nature the way some people’s great fear is to be alone, thus they will latch onto anyone to avoid such a state, while others revel in their solitude and can’t get enough of it.
I think most of us seek someplace in between too much time alone and too much time with others. And the right balance is different for each individual.
Spring can be an exceptionally challenging time to find yourself alone. Mother Nature really kicks pair-bonding into gear, and it’s visible everywhere you look. A male and a female of just about any species, doing their thing to perpetuate the survival of said species. Something so ingrained makes it hard to be alone when everywhere you look you see mated couples, fish, fowl, or human, billing and cooing at each other. Maybe they were doing it all winter in private, but once the nice weather arrives they’re out in full view, driving the point home to anyone who is single and discontent with their state.
Then there’s feeling lonely in the midst of a crowd, such as a party or gathering. Even feeling alone when you’re with your spouse can be a common feeling. Even though you are not all alone, you can still overcome by feelings of loneliness. A shopping mall, a theatre, a classroom or restaurant, are only a few of the places where it’s possible to be surrounded by people, yet still feel alone.
What’s your loneliest moment or place? What do you do to combat that lonely feeling? When is it okay or not okay to be alone?
Maybe this helps explain the popularity of social media. We are a social species. Social media can helps provide a comfortable feeling of lots of friends and human interaction, even though it’s not face to face. Yet, is it a suitable substitute?
These are only a few of the things the average writer ponders every day as we develop our characters, learn what makes them tick, and place them in situations, curious to see just how they react. And as always, reality is far stranger than anything we could invent.
Have a great season, and may it be as social as you want it to be!
Kathleen Lawless
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