Hallo!

I hope everything is well with you! I’m grateful for all that I’m learning from you. I am trying to understand how it works energywise and maybe you can help me.

Can you please explain why what you resist will persist? And the Law of attraction? I get the feeling that you should not get the polarities apart but embrace them instead. Can you explain that? I also wonder about projections. How does that work energywise?

With love,
N.

Dear N.,

I am glad about your sincere questions. Please remember that in order to understand how energy works you have to LISTEN with your heart and not just the words that your mind interprets according to its conditioning. ‘Feel out’ what you read. The first thing to remember is this – all LIFE is ONE and all variety of objects, humans and animals are interconnected and interdependent also interrelated. Life, in order to appear as the world of appearance needs opposites. Without opposites creation is impossible. For example, in order to have a ‘down’ there must be an ‘up.’ It is often referred to as Yin/Yang. For example, if everything was white then we couldn’t physically see. If everything was black we couldn’t see either. We need both black and white in order to experience sensually. All sound emerges from Silence. You couldn’t hear a speech or a song or music unless there were gaps to create the tune or sound...these gaps are the Silence within the sound. Now if you have understood this I will answer your questions:

Can you please explain why what you resist will persist? And the Law of attraction?

When you resist anything, whether it is a thought, emotion or any experience and feeling it means you are making it wrong in your judgment and interpretation. When you judge something wrong or bad you are linking it to yourself (your ego) and therefore you are pushing it away from you which means you are saying, “I don’t want this.” When you reject anything you have extricated yourself from yourself because there is nothing separate from you and therefore become more attached to it. It is like when you were rejected by your boyfriend (hypothethical situation) and couldn’t stop thinking about him even though you hated him then. Suppose someone says to you, “You can think of anything except a banana,” then you will start thinking about a banana. Human nature can’t stand rejection, alienation, loneliness, isolation or any form of separation. Why!? Because we are ONE even though our conditioned mind doesn’t know it. However, in our heart we cannot do without love. All mental sickness, emotional dysfunction emerges from one simple cause – lack of love.

We are attracted to that which makes us feel good, loving, honest, open and happy. If we meet someone and they are comfortable to be with then we start loving them. If we are attracted sexually to someone who is not good for us (which is common) then we are attracted to our childhood pains of unlovingness and so seek passion, excitement and something to make us feel alive. We also like the drama of sick love because it gives us our childhood memories of pain and emotional abuse. All attractions are for going HOME (God) however they get twisted in our understanding because of egoic conditioning.

I get the feeling that you should not get the polarities apart but embrace them instead. Can you explain that?

All polarities complete each other. For example, how can you know ‘short’ if there is no ‘tall?’ How can you know ‘beauty’ if there is no ugliness?

How can you know LOVE unless there is fear? Fear is not bad if we see it as a signpost pointing to love. After all, what is fear? Isn’t it the fear of losing something or having lost something? Why do we fear loss (death)? Isn’t it because we see fragmentation, division, separation instead of oneness? So, if we were to see how everything is part of everything else then we discover LOVE (Oneness). You see, by helping you N., I am also helping myself by loving you. Don’t you feel wonderful when you love someone and truly help them unselfishly (without a thought of personal gain). How can we learn this love unless we first see how selfish we really are and learn from it? So you see, polarities are needed to help us grow. When you can forgive and love someone despite how they feel about you, that very love is the great gift, the true paradise.

I also wonder about projections. How does that work energywise?

We are always projecting one way or another what we feel inside. For example, let’s say someone offended you and you were hurt (because you believe you are an ego) then you keep this hurt inside you and feel contracted, restricted, small, vulnerable and even guilty. This ‘pain’ held inside feels like hell and our nature tries to find ways to get rid of this feeling through irritability, negative reactions, sly remarks, sarcasm, biting remarks, hurtful responses and angry actions. These are all projections from what has been translated us – “I am hurt” or “I am disappointed” or “I am devastated” and so on. It is always “I AM” followed with some interpretation or a story we concocted in our imagination based on our past upbringing. If your father was unloving, not warm and giving, then chances are you are drawn to men who are unavailable emotionally. If you felt lonely and separate as a child then in a relationship you may project this as the inability to be intimate emotionally and to open your heart fully. If you had experienced crushing blows to your self-image as a child or youngster than chances are you will sabotage your relationships or find something wrong with your lovers when they get too intimate. We are always projecting how we see ourselves. However, when we grow up spiritually and see the truth then everything gets transformed.

With love,

Burt