Dear Burt,

I’m interested in what you said about body awareness and the woman who stayed in the feeling of being hurt for about an hour and is now free from it. -Great! :-)

I am trying that on myself and some feelings “pops” after a while and out comes some tears and then it’s gone. But some feelings I can’t come through...

I am now reading “The Journey” again with Brandon Bays and she talks about being present with the feeling and inside of it is the Source to be able to reach if you are present long enough. And then you will feel peace.

Do you think it’s enough to just be in the feeling? Or should I take care of the memories when it comes? And forgive?

I have a problem of Hyperhindrosis. Have you heard of that? That is an overactive nervous system and you easily get nervous syndroms like swetting, your face turnes easily red etc. I would love to get rid of that. Do you think I can help myself with that problem?

Love, N.

Dear N.,

You asked the following:

Do you think its enough to just be in the feeling? Or should I take care of the memories when it comes? And forgive?

Being in the feeling, taking care of memories and forgiving are all one process – it is allowing what is happening in your emotional body and without giving it a label such as ‘sadness’ ‘anger’ ‘fear’ ‘panic’ etc., study the feeling detached until it plays itself out. Do not interfere with the sensations in the body produced by the emotions. This detached allowing heals the past memory (cellular memory by ‘playing it out’ and it is automatic forgiveness because you are NOT getting into your story. Forgiveness is not having to say, ‘I forgive’ but seeing the story as a story as just something that happened without personal attachment.

I have a problem of Hyperhindrosis. Have you heard of that? That is an overactive nervous system and you easily get nervous syndroms like swetting, your face turnes easily red etc. I would love to get rid of that. Do you think I can help myself with that problem?

When you are driven to get rid of this ‘problem’ then the very desire accentuates the problem. The reason you react this way is because you had resisted the feelings that created such a nervous condition (such as embarrasement, shame, guilt and fear associated with them.) Allow this nervous condition to arise whenever it will and allow the symptoms to take place then, in the midst of the red face, sweating hands, red ears and hot cheeks just sit with it and REALLY study this phenomena as if watching it taking place in someone else. Allow the feelings (sensations) to arise and breath gently into them knowing that you are venting the nervous energy into exhausting itself consciously. The key point is ALLOWING and ACCEPTING to the point where the symptoms have no longer any power over you. I used to blush very easily and it used to embarrass me as a child. My cheeks used to get so hot that I felt like burning up. I didn’t know then the secret key, which is “Who cares!” These symptoms are a mechanical reaction of your nervous system brought on by shame or guilt and they will leave as soon as you come to terms with them. Coming to terms is simply forgiving them (giving them space to be) Do not see this as something wrong but simply a reaction of escape and avoidance. The moment you start allowing and become at peace with yourself no matter what happens, the symptoms will abate.
Please let me know how things go.

With love,

Burt